Think about it. Do you really remember what was said before the "but?" Or do you only remember what came after it? Using "but" after a compliment or validation, doesn't create an environment of encouragement. In many cases, the compliment was put before the "but" so that what came after the "but" didn't feel so critical or negative. Yet, there is an incredibly simple word change that will allow you to provide feedback to your students which will invite, encourage and enroll them to improve and become better musicians.
This is one of the most powerful Diamond Distinctions I will share with you. Utilize it in your communications with your students and you will see an instantaneous change in their improvement and willingness to take on the next step of their education.
incredible leverage for change in your students.
Instead of the word "but", try this. Replace the word "but" with the word "and." "I really liked the way you played that, and now, you're ready to add the dynamics." Say it out loud so you can hear and feel the difference. Do you feel how much more powerful invitation for change the word "and" provides?
The word "and", includes, it invites. The word "but," separates.
The tips in this blog are culled from my two books, Coffee With Ray and Lessons With Matt. If you would like more strategies that will both nurture your students into self-directed learners while making your job less stressful and more rewarding, please check them out on Amazon.